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who-do-you-live-for

 

Reading the title, people might assume I’m referring to personal responsibilities or religion. Usually when someone ask the above question, they are referring to either of the responsibilities. I have a different direction I’m heading in when asking the question. I’m referring more to personal satisfaction and gratification. Below I’ll explain why I’m asking the question.

 

Who do you live for?

I’ve been doing a lot of mental and emotional maturing throughout the past year. I’ve learned so far in life, you never stop learning until you stop breathing or your mind no longer works. Everyday there’s something new to learn. However, growth is not dependent on age or experience. Growth is more dependent on what you do with your experiences. If you learn from your experiences and then make adjustments and improvements, that sparks growth. If you’re not proactive with learning from your experiences, you won’t grow. Some people are elderly adults in their 50s and 60s, but mentally and emotionally they’re still in the same mental space they were in during their 20s and 30s. That may seem far-fetched to some reading this, but I’ve personally met some people who are in their 50s and 60s and they have yet to grow emotionally from where they were in their 20s and 30s.

I learned a gem this past year. True peace of mind and mental freedom is found in living for yourself. It sounds quite selfish doesn’t it? Well, actually it’s not. I’m not saying, go out and only take your own feelings into consideration. I’m also not telling you not to assist or serve family, friends, or people in society who may be in need. What I’m advising you to do is simply put your feelings first regarding your life.  There are many people who conceal the person they truly are because they live for the opinion of those in society and the role society has placed on them. Some of the most mentally and emotionally free people are often categorized as “weird” by some people in society, because being mentally and emotionally free isn’t the norm. For instance, the woman who posts her love for her significant other on social media is often viewed as love struck or gullible by her peers. A guy who does the same is often viewed as a simp. Some people may believe the couple is putting on an act for social media. People don’t take into consideration the motives of that man or woman’s posts.  The two lovers may genuinely head over heels over their significant other because they possibly never had a significant other of that caliber. Or, they could be just very appreciative of their significant other and don’t want to conceal it. What better way of showing gratitude than letting other people know? People show off their brand new car when they’re excited about it. They show off their new house, announce their new job, show off their food, or show off photos from vacation trips, yet the moment they show off their significant other the same way they’re negatively labeled by some in society. Which is why people should live and express themselves for their own gratification and not society’s, because society probably will have something negative to say regardless.

You can also point to the free-spirited individuals who are always positive minded and displays a happy demeanor majority of the time. Those individuals are sometimes labeled as phony or disingenuous by society. It seems like whenever someone is being free and truly enjoying their lives, the good fortunes, and the blessings that come along with it, society gets in the way and says “Wait, you can’t do that. You need to follow the script and live life the way we live it or the way we think you should live.”

I have a genuine love for people who are confident enough to live their life the way they want. I’m not speaking on people who break the law, or harm others. I’m referring to people who harmlessly live and do things they truly desire no matter what society says. I asked the question above, which is titled on this post, because I believe life gets better when the answer to that question is “Me.” The question isn’t, “Who do you live to support and take care of?” Or, “What God do you serve?” It’s simply a question referring to if you’re living free or living confined by society, their ideology, and the roles they want to place on you. There’s freedom in living for yourself.

Whenever you feel pressured to do something that isn’t a necessity for your livelihood, ask yourself “Who do I live for?”

 

Nell

www.hellonell.com