What Makes Advice Valid? [Story Attached]

Posted: December 21, 2011 by Nell in Dating, Self Help/ Motivation, Uncategorized
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There was a 14-year-old boy who was seeking advice for a bike that he wanted  to purchase with money he made during the Fall (raking leaves.) He saved over $350. There were 4 people who the boy sought out for advice. His dad was the first person whose advice was sought. There was Mr. Riley, his next door neighbor that often fixed bikes for other kids in the neighborhood. There was Paul, the popular BMX rider that lived in the neighborhood and had a collection of five different bikes, and then there was the salesman at the bike store where the boy was planning on purchasing his bike. The boy took Mr. Riley’s advice to heart, because Mr. Riley had the most experience with bikes. After all, he fixed bikes for other kids in the neighborhood for years. The boy figured that Mr. Riley’s advice is sound. Mr. Riley told the boy to purchase a Mountain bike and stated that the boy would be able to ride the bike as an adult. The boy’s dad was also experienced with bikes. He was a financial advisor and often gave kids in the neighborhood advice on how to manage their money. He told his son to purchase a bike that is less than $100, so he will have extra money to purchase protection gear such as a helmet. Paul told the boy to purchase a Haro 200 Series bike, because it was the same kind as one of the bikes in his collection. The salesman at the bike store told the boy that he would spend most of his money by purchasing a Haro 200 Series. He told the boy that it would be wise if he chose a bike that was less in price if we wanted money left over. The boy ignored the advice of the salesman, his dad, and Mr. Riley. He took Paul’s advice and purchased the Haro 200 Series. He had no money left over to buy the protection gear. The bike was a BMX bike, so he wouldn’t be able to ride the bike as an adult. The boy eventually outgrew his bike, and when he looked back on it, he wished that he took the advice of his dad, the salesman, and Mr. Riley. He admitted that he only went with Paul’s advice because Paul had popular status as a BMX Biker. He eventually chalked it up as a lesson learned that experience and results sometimes outweigh status.

What Makes Advice Valid?

Sometimes I receive great advice from some of the most odd places. I received great advice from a 13-year-old before. It was in reference to a game that I was purchasing; it was experience based. I try to keep an open mind when receiving advice. Sometimes experts don’t lend the best advice. Some people pay attention to the status (popularity or fame) of someone who’s giving advice. Some pay attention to the age of people giving advice. Some pay attention to the experience of people giving advice. And some pay attention to the results of the advice that was given; I’m one of those people. I’m not into the status of someone who gives advice. I’m not the type of person that will run and seek advice from “so and so,” because they’re popular or famous. I rather seek advice from those with experience and those who advice produce positive results.

A top Division 1 Football coach, that coached numerous current NFL players, could be asked advice on which major would benefit his player’s career wise. Although he may not have the best advice in that area, his advice will probably be more sought after than a no-name Division 3 Football coach of a win less team, even though he has numerous ex players with fortune 500 careers. Although the Division 3 coach’s advice is better, the Division 1 coach’s advice holds more value (in societies point of view.)

It’s unfortunate that we grow accustomed to view advice that way. Even outside of education and sports we view advice that way. It seems like status outweighs experience and results. I rarely speak on it, but I find it interesting that everyone is lending relationship advice these days. Every day I’m hearing of some celebrity or entertainer giving advice on relationship and marriage, even if they’re not married. With status, no experience or positive results are necessary. The name is what makes that advice valuable.

Lately I’ve been searching for advice blogs and articles of people who don’t have status and are not very popular. However, one thing that they do have is experience in the topics that they discuss and their advice produces positive results. I’m not knocking celebrities and entertainers at all. If you choose to seek advice from them then that’s your business.

I’ve been told before that I wasn’t entitled to give advice on some topics and I laughed. Not in an arrogant way, but literally laughed. I laughed because the people who told me those things didn’t know anything personal about me besides the basics such as my name and what I write about. These days you have to be careful in terms of who you receive advice from, but you also have to be open-minded. There’s a lot of good advice out there and you never know where it’s hiding. Status should not play a role in where you receive advice from. Instead, experience and positive results should. Some people believe status is what makes advice solid. I believe that experience and positive results outweigh everything. You decide.




  1. Marsha says:

    I take advice from everyone. I like getting a gumbo of advice lol. If you think about it we get advice from teachers based on their status not what they know. Most of them just teach out of manuals anyways. Sad but true. I like ~

  2. keshia says:

    Excellent Well put. I have started being careful with whom I receive advice from because everyone does not wish you Well. As people We need to guard our hearts and minds more often.

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