Women Who Have a Team

Posted: June 30, 2010 by Nell in Dating, Self Help/ Motivation
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My last couple of blog post have been general post pertaining to males and females. I decided to take things in a different direction and make a post about women who have a team of guys. Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of women brag about having a team. It’s no specific age of women who have a team because younger and older women are participating. While everybody has the right to do whatever they desire in life, I’m writing to let some of those women know how things look from the outside.

The Team

Being a single male in today’s society is fun. I’m not gonna lie, because it seems as if women are more lenient than ever. If you’re doing something positive with your life or on the verge of being successful, having options in women is usually not a problem IF you have the other characteristics in place. Actually, most men are more than likely enjoying these times whether they’re ambitious or not. I know of guys who are not doing anything with their lives and have a football roster of women. As previously mentioned, I’ve noticed a trend lately pertaining to some women having a team of men on their roster.

Now, I don’t know if a lot of females are aware of this or not, but check this out. When you have a team of men, you’re actually doing us men a favor, because we don’t have to be in an exclusive relationship with you in order to get what we want. For the most part, men do not feel the need to be in a relationship. There’s two main reasons why we get in relationships. 1.) To get what we want, if the female is not giving it to us without a relationship. 2.) Because we found a woman who has our interest, fulfill our desires, and it’s deep enough to get in a relationship with her. However, number one is ruled out majority of the time because there are many women who are willing to fulfill our desires, whether sexual or material without being in a relationship. So yes, a woman who has a team is doing the guys that she’s involved with a HUGE favor, especially if those guys don’t have interest in being involved in an exclusive relationship with her.

Alright, some of the females with a team might state that they get the full package by having a team, because all of the guys that are on the team amount to the one guy that they truly desire. Most females with a team are single and some are not. Some of you may think “well I’m single so I should be able to date as many guys as I can.” While that’s fair, it creates a future problem. That future problem is called emotional baggage.

I’m gonna be honest with you, and a lot of females are probably not going to like this. Some of you may call it a double standard and some of you may say that I’m bias. However, it’s difficult for a woman to live the lifestyle of a male without it either having a negative effect on her emotionally in the future or present. It is widely known that most single men receive props for having a team. It is the complete opposite effect for women with a team. Some women say they have teams because men are out doing the same. There’s no point in getting upset about the double standard because it’s not going anywhere. It’s been around since the beginning of time. So having a team because men have them is crazy. There’s no getting even with men involved, you only harm yourself.

What’s the point of having a team if no one on your roster upgrades you? I’m referring to mentally and emotionally. Anybody can give you money, that’s not a permanent upgrade, only temporary. I see some females with teams and all of the dudes are of the same caliber. Basically, the guys that are on their roster are just convenient guys, which means if one messes up or flakes out another will step in, and the cycle continues. Now, if you’re going to have a team of guys that are like this, either you’re going to keep recycling the same players on your roster or you’re gonna add another guy to the roster that’s the same caliber as the other guys. You’re wasting valuable time!

Now answer this question!

Do you believe an exclusive relationship will evolve from having a team?

Females have a team because they obviously have not found the guy that they truly desire to be with exclusively. Not only that, but some women have a team because everyone on their team amount to the one guy that they truly desire. Some have a team because they claim they’re having fun, and some have a team because their girlfriends have one. If the ultimate underlying desire that you have is to be a girlfriend or wife someday, you’re actually contradicting that by having a team. A playette stage doesn’t prepare you for a relationship, it adds baggage. The most important thing that is lost from having a team is time. Time to fully get to know you and what you desire. Time to improve and upgrade your life on your own.

So when it’s all said and done, when it comes to having a team is the return investment greater than the time invested?

Darnell R. Mckinnon



  1. Keshia says:

    Yea there are many women out there who have teams…also known as the Double Dick Clutchers. I understand that women are tired of being hurt and they want men to feel how they felt but at the end of the day the only person who is getting hurt is the woman bc she is giving her body to the “Team Players” and becoming emotionally attached only to receive half of a man in hopes that he will make up the one man that is right for her and one whom she desires.

  2. Tricia says:

    I’m guilty of this as well. I used to have a team of men that I dealth with but I then lost them cuz they wasn’t doing there job. Now I’m waiting on my Mr. Right but I don’t think he exist.

  3. Tahirah says:

    Good Blog…
    I agree with the comment that it may look like fun, but the negative attention for women is always going to be more negative because we are females…. But why is it not negative for men to have a team??? I know why some women have a team, but I dont see the point of having a team… But I guess when men stop having teams women will stop!!! You keep me informed on the mind of man.. good stuff!!!!
    Kudos to you!!!

  4. Men are not going to stop having teams, especially if they’re in their player stages or single. The double standard is not going anywhere. There’s no getting even with men because as stated, it only damages the woman in the long run. The best way to even things out for a woman is to not get involved with men that have teams.

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