Too Much Pulling

Posted: January 22, 2010 by Nell in Self Help/ Motivation
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Pulling often comes from resistance. Resistance meaning that an object does not want to move on its own. There are many of us who carry excess baggage that doesn’t want to move, everyday. That excess baggage can be friends, family, co-workers, business partners, or associates in general. The issue with resistance is that it normally requires that person(s) who is doing the pulling to use countless amounts of energy, while the individual(s) who are resisting get dragged along to reap the same rewards as the person who is pulling. Imagine how much easier that individual(s) who is pulling would be able to move if they stopped and let go of the resisting individual(s.)

Too Much Pulling

You hear words like “loyalty” and “ride or die” used in society often. The term “ride or die” is specifically tossed around because somewhere in a relationship/friendship, one of the parties involved is bringing more to the table (pulling) and the other party is reaping the benefits without making steps to progress (resisting.) The term is mainly used by the individual(s) whom are doing the resisting. At some point, we have to make an important decision in our lives that pertains to whether the people in our life are encouraging and aiding our progress, or if they’re halting and stopping our progress.

If you are on the road towards success and focused on achieving goals, you have to cut the act of pulling down to a minimum. You cannot expedite your success if you’re pulling people along with you. While it is possible to become successful when pulling people along with you, there is a disadvantage. That disadvantage is having done all of the work to accomplish your goals and success and the individual(s) who you were pulling eventually reap those same rewards with little to no work being put forth.

It comes a time in life where we have to determine whether or not we want to dismiss words and terms like “loyalty” and “Ride or die.” The word loyalty means to stand by, but you cannot stand by an individual if you’re pulling them. You will always be ahead while their dragging behind. Under the definition of loyalty, you will not see the word pull. You can “lead” individuals to accomplishing success and goals. Leading means you are taking an individual(s) somewhere with you, but they’re not resistant to aiding you in achieving goals and success. You are only a leader when people want to follow you. People who are resistant do not want to follow, they rather stay in idle and be pulled along. Too many times we let loyalty and ride or die halt us from cutting people who are resistant to achieving goals and success out of our lives. There comes a time when a decision has to be made, that decision is do you wanna pull or do you want to lead?

Darnell R. Mckinnon

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  1. Keshia says:

    Darnell hun I completely agree with this blog because it is defenitly an issue that I am experiencing at the current moment. I just personally believe that the reason we spend sooo much time pulling is because the people that we are pulling are close to us and have been around for awhile and you want to see them experience success with you. Because you are being motivated and driven you want the same for the people who are important in your life. But there does come a time in life when one has to wise up and see all the energy that is being exerted into helping others attempt to achieve success when they never really wanted it. We as a people have to take on the mentality that instead of talking about the cars clothes & lavish lifestyle…be about it!!! Take ALL the neccessary steps to start achieving sucess and those that dont want to pull their OWN weight get left BEGHIND!!!!! NO EXCEPTIONS!!!!

  2. Nancy says:

    I am going through this right now. My friends are literally tearing me down. I needed to hear this

  3. Petra says:

    I came across your blog on a whim (about relationships) and found this one. I began thinking about this very concept of “pulling” about 3 years ago, when I considered “pushing” people vs “pulling as the answer to saving some energy. This action has still left me somewhat behind as I now know that unless a person’s mindset and/or role is changed, they will basically be stagnate. I am so relieved to have read this! I actually thought that I had thought up this concept of pulling, however I’m glad to see that it is common knowledge and something that we each must let go if we ourselves ever desire to progress. Considering that my life’s work is to empower people towards wealth, I plan to stick with leading people from a position of strength, meaning when I get to my destination then the people who want to be in that same place will follow. This is with some direction of course, which I can provide. I’m so excited now that I have a newly visualized strategy! I know that this God given vision is going to help alot of people.Thanks!!

  4. Darnell R. Mckinnon says:

    Thanks Petra. I’m glad that you came across my blog. You make great points. Remember great minds think alike.

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