I received an email from a female who stated that she likes my blogs, but she would like me to make a blog about what men look for in women. Just about everything that is said about what men look for is recycled. What I am going to discuss is recycled as well, but I am writing from a man’s point of view that probably can assist some females. Too many times I come across articles online where a woman is speaking on what a man wants. I decided that I will give a man’s point of view. I am not going to be bias and choose sides in the post either.
I decided to write about Jumpoffs/Easy women in order to clear some things up for some females. If your a woman who only deal with guys for sexual gratification and pleasure, this post is not for you. So the question is, do men really respect Jumpoffs/easy women? Most men will tell you that the answer is no, although some may disagree. Honestly we “love” jumpoffs/easy women, but 9 times out of 10 we do not respect them enough in order to put them in the “Settle down with” category. There are some exceptions though, because some guys settle for less in order to achieve instant sexual gratification and they don’t mind dating/marrying these type of women either. However, I am not referring to those type of men in this post. I know plenty of guys who have girlfriends and wives that were jumpoffs and easy women when they began dating because of the desire for instant sexual gratification. So you may be wondering, what is a easy woman? Easy is throwing yourself at a man, giving it to us without us even having to put forth any effort, or just coming off as being desperate.
First, I wouldn’t put a jumpoff or easy woman in the “Settle down with” category because I believe there is a confidence/self esteem issue on their end. Your “goods” will not impress me that much, you have to bring more to the table. But thats just my take and this post is not just about me, it’s about men in general. Men who have things going for theirselves along with confidence and self-worth, will not date or marry a woman who they consider easy or a jumpoff. Why? Because we do not respect things that come easy, but neither do women. Now there may be some women reading this and they may be wondering why some guys only call them to come over late night, never want to go out on dates with them or be seen in the public eye together, and only want to do things with them that relates to sex. The answer is that more than likely you are in the jumpoff category, and it is similar to a woman’s “friendzone” category, it’s hard to get out of. But anyways there are a lot of females around who believe that they can take a man away from his wife, girlfriend, or other women who he is involved with because she’s willing to give him the goods quicker and easier; And according to her, her “goods” are better than the women or woman who he is involved with. One thing that those women fail to realize is the fact that you can’t win a man over by the “goods” that’s in between your legs. Taking the man temporarily from his wife, girlfriend, or other women may be possible, but it will not be enough to keep us. I find it humorous when I meet a woman and she brags about how good her “goods” are. I am assuming that those women don’t believe that other females state the same thing as well.
But back to the question of this post, the answer is NO. We may respect easy women as human beings and as women, but we do not respect easy women as “settle down with” material; Real men that is. I am skeptical about things that are free, discounted, and easy, so why wouldn’t I feel the same way about a woman who’s easy. Many women may believe that men have the mindset of “If she did that for me with ease, she probably do the same for other dudes.” Those same women will state that they only did something easy with us because they like us more, in order to use a smoke screen. While the statement of those women not being “easy” with other men may be true, we get more of a confirmation if anything. That confirmation is that we will not throw you in the girlfriend/wife potential category because at the end of the day you still were “EASY.” You will automatically get thrown in the Jumpoff/convenient smash/I’ll call whenever I am horny category. Now it may sound harsh, but I am being real about the situation because I was asked to give my honest opinion.
If you want a man to respect you as settle down with material, you have to carry yourself that way. Most men will sleep with a woman on the first day that we met her. But chances are we will not throw her in the potential wife/girlfriend category. Most men would sleep with a woman who they know are constantly sleeping with other guys, but she will not be thrown in the wife/girlfriend category. Just like females have Categories, men do as well. Some women believe that if they “put it on us” the right way, they will have us wrapped around their fingers, That’s a lie. Sure some men may be wrapped around your fingers, but they will be wrapped around yours and other women as well. Hey, I am just being honest. Some females even believe that their doing their selves good service by being easy and sleeping with a guy without him putting in effort. Sure, you may get up to an hour of pleasure, but you lose a lifetime of respect from that guy. Not total respect, but girlfriend/wife material respect.
Men respect a challenge from women. Not the phony “Playing hard to get” challenge, but a genuine challenge. A lot of women these days pretend to be a challenge, but most guys can see right thru that and then we lose respect for that female. That loss of respect gives most guys the urge to throw the woman in the jumpoff category anyways. A female shouldn’t have to come off as stuck up, a snob, sadity, or a diva in order to be a challenge. To most men, playing stuck up is actually a sign that your easy and using a cover up. So you may be wondering, what is a genuine challenge? A genuine challenge is a female who knows her worth, but does not go over board in order to prove that she does. Some of the females that I met who were genuine challenges had some of the best personalities around. Friendly, classy, can hold an intelligent conversation, knew their self worth, confident, sexual, but not easy. On the other hand, some of the most “easy” women whom I have met had some of the most arrogant, snobby, sadity, and disrespectful personalities around. Their personality was working as their coverup for their easy side, but I saw right thru it just like most guys would. With that being said, we see through the false personas ladies. Am I stating that you cannot be sexual or sleep with a guy who you like? No because sleeping with a guy does not make you easy, but I am stating that we respect women who are not easy more than women who are. If you want to be respected and treated like girlfriend/wife material, carry yourself like it. It may be hard to accept it, but it’s fact.
I may receive some backlash from this post, but majority of the people who may send backlash at me will more than likely be in the same catergories that I was referring above. But honestly, these days some women are content with being jumpoffs/easy women and are only in it for sexual gratification and pleasure. They believe that it’s their way to get “Even” with guys, but little do they know their hurting their selves more than us because chances are we have already threw them in the “Jumpoff” category. This post is not for those type of females.
When I wrote this, the men I am referring to are the men who are about their business and know their self worth. I am not referring to the dudes that settle for less or guys who accept anything that has eyes. I would not have wrote this blog if I were not asked to. It’s not because I am selfish, but it’s because I believe that some women have their issues, problems, and wounds from dating men because they inflict them theirselves.
Darnell R. Mckinnon
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