Date Someone That Desires You [Uncommon Sense]

Some people will say that dating someone who desires you is common sense, but from the looks of things in society it’s not so common. I had a discussion earlier this week in reference to the title of this post. I personally believe that people are having such a hard time with finding the right match, because they’re attempting to date out of their league. There are a lot of people in the dating world that are interested in dating someone who either doesn’t find them physically, mentally, or sexually attractive.

How Firm is Your Mind? (Your Inner Desires)

 

People may read the title and think that I’m referring to sanity, but I’m not. I’m speaking in terms of your desire for what you want in a mate. A lot of people, male and female try to pretend they don’t want to be in a relationship, but majority do. I’ll admit, there are perks to being single but it’s not hard to become jaded with those perks after a while. It seems to me that society has a hold on what we desire in a mate.

The Negative Assumptions of Black Men (Must Read)

With this post I’m just gonna flow. I will do a spell check, but other than that I’m just going to write. So if you spot any typos or grammar issues, I apologize. As of late, I’ve been getting some emails from females regarding black men. From suggestions of writing about why men cheat and are deadbeats, weak, down low, irresponsible, dependent, and the infamous “there are no good black men around.” These discussions have been the topic of discussion for a while now. However, some of my readers may not have read about them yet since they email me about the subjects, or maybe they just want to know my opinion on the topic. I’m gonna write this blog obviously as a Black man. The things the I will write in this post are my true opinion on the subject. I’m not worried about anyone else’s opinion. They’re free to write about this subject as well, but here’s mine. This is probably going to be my longest blog post. Brace yourself! Check this out:

Why Advice From Friends Can Ruin Your Current or Potential Relationship

Were you ever in a relationship or dating situation and one of your friends had nothing but negative things to say about them? Sometimes, it’s always the same friend that has something to say about anyone that you ever dated or attempted to date. Other times, that friend feels the need to pick and choose their favorites out of all the people who you’ve been involved with. This blog is about them.

I haven’t written a blog post in a while. I’ve been taking care of some business, but I figured I will pop up and write another post. I decided to write this post because I always hear people nagging and complaining about how they don’t like they’re mate’s friend(s). Either I’m hearing

F’n is the New Dating

When I was growing up, the purpose of dating was to progress into a relationship. When we heard “So and so are dating,”  we looked at it as if they were a couple or at least progressing towards being one. Flash forward to now and the word “dating” has totally different meanings. It seems like things have done a complete 180 since then. The unfortunate thing about it is I was a teen not too long ago. In this current society, dating has different meanings. Some people believe that dating is when a guy and woman go out to have a good time and get to know each other better, some believe that its going from person to person to see who’s the best candidate, and more often than not I hear it being used to

What’s On Your Grocery List?

I know some people are reading the title thinking “What is he talking about?” The title above comes from a thought that I had in reference to comparing grocery shopping to dating. While most people will understand what I’m referring to, some will not. I decided to break it down my thought in this blog post.

 

What’s on your grocery list?

People that are health conscious will understand where I’m heading here. It’s amazing that a lot of the foods that taste good and provide you with instant gratification, are actually bad for your health. Meanwhile, the foods that are good for your health are sometimes not as instantly gratifying to your taste buds as the unhealthy foods. Doctors inform you to make healthy and smart choices in reference to the foods you eat. Many people choose to listen to their doctor and take their advice, but some do not. Those that don’t take their doctor’s advice on eating healthier foods often pay the consequences with their health. They increase the risk of getting diseases like high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, and many other health problems. While some health complications are not caused by poor diet, majority of them are. What’s on your grocery list when looking for a potential mate? Things that only satisfy and benefit you in the present or

Stop Expecting Loyalty From Others In 2012

I often hear people state, “If you don’t raise your expectations in other, you don’t have to worry about a let down.” For the most part I agree with that statement, in some instances I don’t. For example, I believe sometimes you need to be let down by certain events in order to grow. However, being let down by people is at the bottom of that list of things. I have grown to the point that I don’t expect much from people, besides respect and unfortunately in some cases that’s not even reciprocated. I come across a lot of people who become frustrated when disloyal acts are committed by people that they love or care about. I decided to touch on the topic while it was on my mind.

 

Stop Expecting Loyalty From People In 2012

The title above is serious and is not intended to provide humor. I think my generation (80′s baby) place too much emphasis on loyalty. Sure, when we were in our early childhood stage we often heard people from prior generations discuss loyalty. We saw them place loyalty very high on their list expectations from other.

The 90 Day Rule is Counterproductive [Sex]

Yeah I said it! I figured I would blog since I haven’t blogged in a while. I should have blogged about this topic years ago, but I didn’t. I believe I’ve touched on it a few times, but I didn’t blog about it as a topic. One thing that I will say is that I mean what I said in the title. The 90 day rule is counterproductive, because time lengths shouldn’t determine status or emotion. I’ll explain.

The 90 Day Rule is Counterproductive

The 90 day rule is when a woman waits 90 days to have sex with a man who she’s been dating or getting to know. Throughout a man’s life we encounter

Flattery Kills: The Negative Effects of Thirsty Behavior

You ever wonder why people who display thirsty behavior rarely get what they want?  For example, you see someone on the internet that constantly compliments someone, but they eventually get mad when they’re not rewarded for those compliments. There’s a lot of that going on. People use flattery in order to gain the attention of someone who they’re interested in. Nothing is wrong with that, but its the overuse of flattery that translates into thirsty behavior. Both women and men can sense when someone’s flattery is genuine and when it’s just…thirsty. I decided to write a post about this because I’m getting more exposed to thirsty behavior daily.  There are two major negative effects that flattery and thirsty behavior have on people. One is the effect that flattery has on the person that’s being flattered and the other is the effect on the person doing the flattering.

Flattery Eventually Kills False Confidence

Where does your confidence come from? Does it come from your past and present accomplishments or does it come from the compliments that other people pay you? If your answer is the latter, you can be affected by flattery in a negative way. I have no issue with people and their self-confidence. I wish the world was filled with people who had true self-confidence instead of false. There are a couple of things that lead people to have false confidence. One is flattery and the other one has more to do with having low confidence or self-esteem, therefore they have to over compensate for it by pretending that they’re a confident individual.

What Makes Advice Valid? [Story Attached]

There was a 14-year-old boy who was seeking advice for a bike that he wanted  to purchase with money he made during the Fall (raking leaves.) He saved over $350. There were 4 people who the boy sought out for advice. His dad was the first person whose advice was sought. There was Mr. Riley, his next door neighbor that often fixed bikes for other kids in the neighborhood. There was Paul, the popular BMX rider that lived in the neighborhood and had a collection of five different bikes, and then there was the salesman at the bike store where the boy was planning on purchasing his bike. The boy took Mr. Riley’s advice to heart, because Mr. Riley had the most experience with bikes. After all, he fixed bikes for other kids in the neighborhood for years. The boy figured that Mr. Riley’s advice is sound. Mr. Riley told the boy to purchase a Mountain bike and stated that the boy would be able to ride the bike as an adult. The boy’s dad was also experienced with bikes. He was a financial advisor and often gave kids in the neighborhood advice on how to manage their money. He told his son to purchase a bike that is less than $100, so he will have extra money to purchase protection gear such as a helmet. Paul told the boy to purchase a Haro 200 Series bike, because it was the same kind as one of the bikes in his collection. The salesman at the bike store told the boy that he would spend most of his money by purchasing a Haro 200 Series. He told the boy that it would be wise if he chose a bike that was less in price if we wanted money left over. The boy ignored the advice of the salesman, his dad, and Mr. Riley. He took Paul’s advice and purchased the Haro 200 Series. He had no money left over to buy the protection gear. The bike was a BMX bike, so he wouldn’t be able to ride the bike as an adult. The boy eventually outgrew his bike, and when he looked back on it, he wished that he took the advice of his dad, the salesman, and Mr. Riley. He admitted that he only went with Paul’s advice because Paul had popular status as a BMX Biker. He eventually chalked it up as a lesson learned that experience and results sometimes outweigh status.

What are you in it for?

I haven’t blogged in a few weeks because I have been working on some other stuff. I decided to come back and share something with you. I was gonna post a blog last week, but I didn’t feel like blogging about the topic that I had. It was very redundant, and if I think that, then it’s not a good idea to write about it. Anyone that is familiar with me is aware that I like to converse with older people and suck as much wisdom out of them as possible. I wouldn’t call it a hobby, but it’s definitely something that I look forward to if I’m in their presence. I decided to write a blog based on the conversation that I had with an older woman about a week ago.

This blog was going to be about “thirst” and how it ruins great opportunities for people. I decided to not write about it after I saw something about thirst being a trending topic on twitter. This is my blog, so I could have written about it if I wanted to, but if a topic is trending I really don’t want to drive it into the ground. I think it’s pretty much common sense reference to thirst. It’s nothing good about it.